Are you feeling fertility overwhelm?

If one more thing doesn’t go your way you’re going to have a primal scream 😱session in your car, or throw a full body tantrum with your hands and feet thumping the ground asking the universe – “why me why me why me?”

I love a good physical release – and really – that’s what’s happening here – you’re full up with _______ – you name it – frustration, heart break, information gathering, lack of control, trying to figure out fertility acronyms (IYKWIM), insurance phone calls, loss, bad communication at the clinic, the belief that you are not able to openly express your emotions..and on and on and on.

And then boom – you’re at capacity and your body needs to release all that pent up energy. And boom 💥

You are in a fertility pressure cooker – and there is no where else for the energy to go but outwards and in great fanfare 🌋

Is there a way to let the steam out slowly – without the lid blowing off? A more balanced approach to dealing with the fertility overwhelm?

There is – and it’s 3 simple steps (not always easy though!)

1️⃣ Identify and name your biggest source of fertility overwhelm:

  • Emotional overwhelm – grief, anxiety, depression
  • Decision overwhelm – repeated complex & emotional decisions to be made with no guarantees (often falling on the woman!)
  • Medical overwhelm – testing, results, dr’s offices, treatment, insurance
  • Financial overwhelm – fertility treatment/care as well as investing in your overall health and self care
  • Planning & uncertainty overwhelm – treatment unpredictability, possible pregnancies and planning for the future
  • Relationship overwhelm – With your partner, your family, your friends.

2️⃣ Acceptance

  • You don’t need to like it – but you do need to find a level of acceptance before you can move forward. Ignoring the situation will not change it and most likely make it worse.
  • Instead you can say: Today I am fertility overwhelmed with grief – AND THAT IS OK. Something sad happened and I will give myself grace, patience, and space to process this.
  • I am where I am, and that’s ok. Again – you don’t need to like it!

3️⃣ Action

  • By identifying and accepting the thing that is creating the fertility overwhelm – you have given yourself, as my yoga teacher says – time to walk around the situation…
  • This space gives you the ability to respond instead of react.
  • Sometimes the response truly is to call in sick, roll up in a ball and cry your heart out ❤️‍🩹 because something really heart breaking just happened and you need to let that energy move through you.
  • And sometimes – the action is to put in place or formulate a plan to overcome the area of fertility overwhelm.
  • For example – if it is a family member who is injecting themselves into your fertility (for the worst) – maybe it’s time to set some boundaries with them. Uncomfortable, yes, but worth it for your fertility & overall wellbeing? Absolutely.

Would you like to be guided through more scientifically backed tools to keep your stress levels at a low simmer, understand why you feel you ‘can’t openly express your emotions’, and how to set boundaries with loved ones? All so you can live more fully while TTC?

Think about joining the next 40 Days to Fertile Freedom small group program. Next one is May 2024 – Get on the waitlist for pre-registration and the early bird price ($100 off). This program sold out in 36 hours last run and has only 10 spaces available! So yes – join the waitlist if you’re even remotely interested.

What's your fertility type?

What's your fertility type?

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About Kerry

About Kerry

Kerry Hinds is a E-RYT, RPYT, Relax and Renew® Certified Teacher, Fertility Yoga Teacher, and Reiki Practitioner. She is the founder of Fertile Body Yoga and teaches weekly fertility yoga classes and offers other avenues of mind + body support for those trying to conceive. All is available in the FBY Virtual Studio.

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