I hear many of my students making assumptions and having biases about themselves and their fertility that just aren’t true – and it fires me up 🔥 Because I know that you can profoundly affect the course of your fertility when you uncover and address some underlying patterns of thoughts and behaviors.
YES – you can change your biochemistry with your thoughts. You can boost your fertility by changing the way you think about it! So let’s start to untangle some of the limiting beliefs and engrained stories we are telling ourselves. You can listen to this with a little extra comentary on the Fringe Fertility Podcast.
In this post, I’m shining some light on the patterns society & culture has programmed into your subconscious and how they affect your physiological fertility and your experiences with fertility.
The BIG 3 Ps of subconscious patterns that are affecting your fertility OR as I like to call them – The 3 strange bedfellows of fertility
1️⃣ The Patriarchy: most of us live within a patriarchal society that values masculine over feminine energies.
But before I go any further – I’m not saying that patriarchy is the root of all evil and to hate all men – no no no. What I’m saying is – let’s open our eyes and see how it affects our fertility, beliefs around fertility, and life. Once we see, we can begin to understand and make changes that will release some very deep rooted tension in our minds and bodies. When we do this, it’s as if the body exhales from all that pressure and allows us to be healthier and happier – more fertile.
Here’s a few ways your fertility may be influenced by growing up and living in a patriarchy
So – what to do about this? It’s time to embrace the feminine and bring more of it into your life. Recognize when you’re channeling all that masculine energy and instead, nurture and nourish yourself rather than depleting yourself.
2️⃣ People Pleasing – doing everything for everyone else before putting yourself first. What you’re doing is often not fully appreciated, acknowledged, or valued – so resentfulness may also come into the equation
People pleasing stems from the patriarchy and how we were raised as girls/young women & expected to behave as women in society – smile pretty, be seen not heard, be polite, say the right thing, be the perfect hostess etc etc etc..
What to do? Set boundaries and ask for help. Boundary setting is HARD, but it is so important. You NEED to take care of yourself…and there is no need to have to apologize or feel guilty for taking that time. One of the best quotes I heard about boundary setting was that ‘only YOU can set boundaries for yourself, you can’t expect other people to make boundaries for you. AND you have to enforce them.’
And ask for help – it’s not a weakness, it is a blessing. Ask for your partner to do the grocery shopping, or cook a couple times a week.
3️⃣ Perfectionism – having the disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable.
I know, you might be saying right now, ‘holy crap’, I’ve never thought about it this way before!
This is the first step to changing the playbook you’re working from.
If you want guidance and support on your fertility journey and the 3Ps were an eye opener for you! Then check out the 40 Days to Fertile Freedom Program.
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